How To Cope With A Loved One's Addiction

When someone you love is struggling with addiction, it can feel as though your entire world has been turned upside down. The constant worry, sleepless nights, and emotional rollercoaster can leave you feeling drained, confused, and completely alone. It’s important to remember that while you may not be able to change their behaviour, you can take steps to protect your own wellbeing.

At Families Out Loud, we support people who are coping with a loved one’s drug or alcohol use. Here’s what we’ve learned about how to cope with a loved one’s addiction—and how you can begin to take care of yourself, even in the most difficult of circumstances.

1. Acknowledge Your Feelings

Addiction brings with it a tangle of emotions—sadness, anger, guilt, shame, fear. All of these are valid. Don’t feel you need to keep a brave face or push your feelings down. Talking to someone who understands can help lighten the load.

2. Learn About Addiction

Understanding addiction as a health condition—not a moral failing—can make a huge difference. It helps to know that addiction rewires the brain and changes behaviour, and that recovery is often a long, non-linear process. The more informed you are, the more empowered you’ll feel.

3. Set Healthy Boundaries

You can’t pour from an empty cup. Setting clear, respectful boundaries protects you emotionally and prevents enabling behaviour. That might mean saying no to lending money, not answering calls during the night, or taking time out when things feel too much.

4. Find Your Support Network

Whether it’s a friend, family member, or support group, connection is crucial. At Families Out Loud, we offer safe, welcoming spaces where you can talk openly with others who know exactly what you’re going through. You’ll be met with kindness—not judgement.

5. Focus on What You Can Control

You can’t control your loved one’s choices—but you can control how you respond. Focus on your own health, your boundaries, and the steps you can take to rebuild your emotional strength. It’s not selfish—it’s essential.

6. Don’t Wait to Ask for Help

You deserve support too. Reaching out isn’t a sign of weakness—it’s a step towards regaining a sense of calm in the chaos. The sooner you seek help, the sooner you can start to feel stronger, more hopeful, and less alone.

If you’re wondering how to cope with a loved one’s addiction, start with us. At Families Out Loud, we’re here to listen, support and walk alongside you every step of the way.